Here’s Everything I Learned About Being Over 40 and Using Tinder
In my late 40s, I never thought I would turn to a “hook-up” app to find love-but I wanted to take romance into my own hands.
The conference made me do it. My friend and I were sharing a hotel room at a weeklong business conference. After a day of dry lectures and an evening of happy hours and conference socializing, London best hookup apps we were tired, a bit tipsy, and slightly giddy. As we sipped wine and gazed out at the hotel’s infinity pool and the lights of the city, we talked about how nice it would be have to have a date with us.
Naturally, the topic turned to men and the atmosphere in the room began to resemble a slumber party. So we downloaded the Tinder app. We sat side by side, swiping right and left, exclaiming with glee when we matched with someone.
In my late 40s, I never thought I would turn to a “hook-up” app for romance. However, here I am – a year later, Tindering away. When I joined Tinder, I hadn’t been dating much. I had tried (and still use) other dating applications but the pool of men I had been meeting began to feel limited.
After my marriage of 12 years ended, I spent most of the past decade building a successful career that allowed me the time and flexibility I needed to raise my son and assembling a close-knit circle of friends. Although my ex-husband and I co-parent our now 12-year old son, my son spends 75% of his time at my home. With no relatives nearby to watch my son, my dating life is restricted to Monday nights and alternate weekends. The schedule makes intimacy difficult and the dating (and mating) dance tends to be, well, not very easy. On the one hand, my schedule automatically winnows the dating field – someone must really be interested in getting to know me to date this way. (more…)
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